In which case neither the harness nor the car has a C104 connector.
As a recap to make sure I understand the symptoms…
You have spark when cranking, but the fuel pump relay doesn’t close (i.e. no power at fuse 11) and thus the pump doesn’t run. Correct? Are the injectors firing when cranking (as proved by a noid light)? Will the engine start and run if you jumper the fuel pump relay?